September is Take-a-Man-on-a-Date Month, so I’ve heard. Personally, I think it is a wonderful idea. It is always great to see women taking the upper hand in the relationship. So, if you have a man worth taking out, by all means, take him out and show him that what a man can do, a woman can do better.
Having said that, what about us single ladies? I was thinking that in the same spirit of women taking charge in relationships, we should also make September Ask-a-Man-Out Month. It’s sad that women are missing out on great relationships simply because they are still waiting for the man to make the first move.
Have you ever asked a man out? If not, what are you waiting for? If you are a single woman, I am challenging you to make the first move on a man before September ends. Here are a few tips to help you pick up a guy successfully:
Leave your clique behind: There is no quicker way to frighten a man away than to have your five BFFs staring and giggling as you try to approach him. I know you may think that asking your girlfriends to tag along for moral support is a great idea, but it will only intimidate the guy and make him less inclined to hear you out.
So, when you decide to go out on the prowl, it is best to go in alone. It is also much easier for a man to approach you if you are by yourself. So, if you have been wondering why guys don’t ask you to dance at the club, it is probably because they are intimidated by your friends.
Realise that any place is a potential hunting ground: When a woman wants to meet a man, the first place she heads to is her local club or bar. While there is nothing wrong with watering holes as potential meeting places, you are limiting yourself by only considering them.
Men are everywhere, so think outside the box. The supermarket, in matatus, the queue at the bank; your options are limitless. My personal favourite is supermarkets, because you are pretty much assured the men there are single. Men with wives don’t go grocery shopping.
So, the next time you see a hottie that strikes your fancy at the queue at the bank, don’t stop yourself because you think it is not the right place. There is no ‘right place’ to meet a guy.
Don’t overanalyse: The biggest mistake women make when it comes to approaching men is overthinking every little thing. When you start overthinking every little detail, you become overcome with fear and insecurity and end up backing out.
When you decide to approach a guy, you need to be as comfortable and relaxed as possible. Don’t worry about what he is thinking, or if you are saying the right things. Also, don’t overanalyse his responses.
Make peace with the fact that you might be rejected: Rejection is part and parcel of the dating process and just like men, women are not immune to it. It will hurt; it will discourage you, but don’t let it stop you from continuing on.
So, maybe that one didn’t work out as you expected, but there could be a better, more interesting guy just around the corner who will be completely smitten by you. All you have to do is make a move. Don’t give up.